I need to study DPD more, but some times I get the impression that they are the nurturing wife of the abusing husband.
It's the naivety, which was displayed in that case study you linked. It's related to co-dependency.
crystal_richardson_ wrote:it is fundamentally "I am a victim (of trauma)"
And?
crystal_richardson_ wrote:that's what jumps out to the layperson; that's how it will be approached by clinicians.
And? It is common for victims of trauma to receive trauma-based therapy, regardless of the illness they have.
crystal_richardson_ wrote:whether the current stigma of BPD is merited or not - fully or partially - is not the point. C-Ptsd would convey the message, and is one big fat excuse for BPD behaviour that takes responsibility away from the person and places it on their 'abuser'
In no way shape or form is anyone with any mental illness abdicated of their behaviour, even if it is a reaction formation from childhood abuse.
You keep repeating this. I'm honestly starting to think you have almost no experience in the mental health system.
crystal_richardson_ wrote:I am not denying that abuse can lead to a person becoming an abuser themselves, but causes do not change the fact that BPD is a character flaw - as all the PDs are.
As everyone has. PDs are more than just "character flaws"; if anything, they are rubber stamps on behaviour/thinking that is considered outside of societal norms.
crystal_richardson_ wrote:While trauma may indeed be the cause, and BPD may indeed be a response to it, so too must the other PDs be seen in this way or there is another agenda.
You're seeing agenda where there is none. I never said, nor did my therapist, that it was only BPD that was a reaction to complex trauma. In fact, common thinking is that ALL mental illness, Axis 1 and 2, is the result of some form of trauma or the other.
crystal_richardson_ wrote:All the PDs are defence against something, and so they are all anxiety disorders rooted in particular fears.
ok, so are all the Axis 1 disorders. You're arguing against something that I never claimed.
crystal_richardson_ wrote:Because there is no reason not to see the other PDs similarly. NPD is a defence against narcissistic injury. BPD is a defence against annihilation or abandonment.
I agree, there is no reason. And Narcissists have subconscious annihilation anxiety fears as well.
crystal_richardson_ wrote:Not, "I am a premeditating predatory manipulative woman"
I'm not sure if you're arguing that's what BPD is compromised of, or simply regurgitating something out of literature from the 60s.