Not sure how to help my girlfriend

My girlfriend seems to fluctuate between starving herself and over exercising and overeating. When shes starving herself and exercising, she never has any energy and often will blow off plans or events to exercise or sleep. After a while of this, she'll often start eating again, but when she does, she'll overeat and get very angry with herself and gets very depressed and often talks about harming herself or suicide. It isn't uncommon for her to tell me she wants to starve herself to death. She also keeps a book of pictures off thinspo sites in her room, which she regularly adds to.

She came out and told me she thought she was anorexic about 8 months ago, and I've been doing everything I can to help her that I can think of, including reading up on eating disorders, reassuring her on a constant basis, even looking into attending overeaters anonymous meetings to learn more about it.

I feel she suffers from a lot of depression from her childhood and past abusive relationships, and I have spoken with her many times about how seeing a psychologist might help her with her depression and possibly her ed, she either will claim it won't do a thing or say that she wants it to kill her. While I know I can't be forceful with this, I just hate seeing her going in a downward spiral being unable to help in any substantial way.

I'm just wondering if anyone has any suggestions or advice, thanks in advance.

Erathor12, you've done everything quite well so far, and you seem to have a god understanding nature about you. Considering that little has worked, however, I think that you might have to realise that she may never have a healthy relationship with food for the immediate future. If you are willing to continue to offer her support in the face of no real improvement, then that's fine. One thing that I can assure you is that this should becaome less of a problem for her with time. Other than what I';ve already said, I cannot really offer anymore because I am yet to experience anything past what you have.

Oh, I have Bulimia by the way.


Kevin

Of course I plan to continue supporting her, thank you very much for your response, its much appreciated.

Good luck then. She's lucky to have such an understanding guy a you are. I have heard stories where the boyfriend just tells her (his partner) to get over it, or something along those lines.

Hiya!
I am in recovery from anorexia,I think you seem wonderfully supportive,theres unfortunately not much you can do apart from be there for her,tell her you love her,and give her a shoulder to cry on.
From experience it doesnt matter what people tell you,if you are all consumed by it then thats the only thing that 'makes sense'
my fiancewas a star-I dontknow how he put up with me-including my 2 hospital admissions for 6 months at a time!ill never forget what he did for me and she will get to the point where she realises that too,
I think you should def encourage her to see a doc who can reffer her to a psych,she wont be able to deal with this alone and im so glad I took that 1st step.unfortunately she has to get to a point where she WANTS to get well-no one can do it apart from her she has to want it not just say it bc she thinks everyone wants to hear it,like Iused to do.
I wish you both the very best of luck.xxxxx

If all else fails, and perhaps before it does, he might try redirecting her training in the direction of body biulding, for it is another extreme and not so far removed, very low fat, but optimal nutrition! I know of a case of an anorexic girl becoming an international body biulder in quite a short time. In any event she wouldn`t be burning the calories, not without the muscle, but to acquire them she`d need to `eat` Protein powder might be the beginning (they usually drink a lot!?) Remember, she`d never need to think about fat - muscle burns fat, but only an enhanced shape, coupled with everyone of her back.

Sorry, I confused your post with anothers. She loathes herself and so wants out, right? Try a complete change of environment, which her parents may help fund. Just take her somewhere wonderful where she may begin to forget, and her mind to repair - whatever she would most enjoy doing. Bananas might be tolerated without purging? - They are substantial, but perhaps there significance will be over-looked. If she wont eat for herself then ask her to do it to relieve your suffering, and let her feel giulty over that. Has she been treated for depression? - Perhaps the Serotonin supplement would help, available from Higher Nature.
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If foods a problem for her then try drinks. Myoplex Diet comes in at kcal. 206 - Fuel Sport at £46 for 40 sachets. Myoplex Deluxe is 358kcal per sachet. She`d spare energy in absorption, is muscle specific, and contains the nutrients of a high protein balanced meal. The nutrients would get there much faster - It might be worth a lot more to her than the calories suggest. It`s not like eating, providing she`s not counting calories she`d be unlikely to bring it back. Very good with soya milk (if she wont drink dairy) and even better when mixed with ground almonds. If she`s happy with only Myoplex and Bananas to make-up her calorie requirement, her body would miss for little. Apparently Pollen Grains contain everything in the right balance to support life - Adding that to soya milk might go a long way should there be issues with Myoplex Diet. Available from Health Stores.
She must always enjoy your company, and when you can try to make her laugh.

I moved in with my girlfriend a year ago. Since I knew her, she was always really thin, but always got on well together.
After a year, I find it is very hard, as she never eats, and demands constant workouts, both in the bedroom and in the gym.
We don't argue, but I'm quite thin as well, and as a result, she forces me to eat little, resulting in both of us constantly starving. There is no food in the house, both of us live on small, light salads, closely weighed for each person. I don't mind her (and me) being thin, but now both of us only weigh 15 stone between us. I weigh 9 stone, and she weighs 6 stone, but now has dropped to below 6st. We both run long-distance and both are active members both in the gym and running clubs and recently she wants to run much further, so I have to and it's killing us. Her body feels so light and bony and so far love-making hasn't suffered, but find both of us are very tired afterwards. What should I do, as there is only so much she can bear, before being hospitalised?