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*TW* Why am I taking this as a compliment?

Postby words-as-weapons666 » Wed Feb 11, 2015 12:17 am

My SO recently told me I look like I escaped from a concentration camp and that I look like a heroin addict. He clearly thinks I am not bettering my appearance at all and he is concerned, but somehow my mind is taking his comments as compliments. How in the ###$ is "you look like an emaciated prisoner" making me feel empowered and how do I stop taking everything along the lines of "you look too thin" as "you look good"??
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Re: Why am I taking this as a compliment?

Postby Im-pure » Thu Feb 12, 2015 1:27 pm

I understand what you mean. I found it helpful to ask people to not comment on my weight at all, regardless if its about weight gain or weight loss. Have you considered having a discussion about this, where you could tell your SO any kind of comments related to weight are triggering? stay strong x
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Re: *TW* Why am I taking this as a compliment?

Postby Black and Blue » Mon Feb 16, 2015 2:34 pm

I was freaked out by the very same thing, back when my eating disorder was at it's "peak".I don't know if the same thing goes for you but my anorexia has always been about hating myself and wanting to disappear. Not on the concious level, no, but deep down. So hearing these things, kindda like pleased the parts of me, that wanted me destroyed.
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