cutting

hi. i am 16 years old. i dont know if i will get any results by posting here, but i am out of options. i have been cutting for almost 5 months now, nothing too serious, but enough to hurt and leave ugly scars on my body. my parents found out and sent me to a doctor. she helped me, but they made me stop going after 2 sessions. i told them that how i felt and why i cut myself, but they got angry at me, took away TV, music, my car, and even forbid me talking to my 2 best friends. they said that i have to earn everything back by behaving and being a nice girl. but it is so ahrd, because i always feel so angry and so helpless. they threatened me, that if i cut...... well, i have to hide it so carefully now. i always want to, on my arms, my legs, breasts, anywhere i can hide it. and i have no one to talk to because they refuse to think anything is worng with me. they just tell me to stop. but i cant. not without help. and i am so afraid this will never end because i cant get help or talk to anyone. someone please reply to this, i really need someone. thanks.

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Your parents sound like very traditional parents. Parents sometimes dont want to believe or accept that thier child is having problems because they feel it reflects badly on them. My own parents believe depression is just a way for teenagers to get attention.

As far as your situation goes, since what theyre doing isnt technically abuse (Its emotionally abusive but thats INCREDIBLY hard to prove and even harder to prosecute) theres not a whole lot you can do.

You may have to put on a puppet show for your parents. This is kinda risky because it forces you to bottle up emotions and not release them when you need to which isnt good, but its preferable to exacerbating the situation with them. Let them think "Shes ok, theres nothing wrong with her."

With the cutting, I reccomend you switch to wax. Light a candle and them pour the melted wax onto your skin (Slowly though, molten wax is as viscous as water and is IMPOSSIBLE to get out of clothes or carpet). You get the same pain as cutting without the scars, blood, and tissue dammage. Be sure to clean the area after your done.

the way they are trying to "solve" your cutting is wrong. they shouldn't be taking away things, especially friends. it just makes it so much worse, and you probably know that. i wouldn't be able to take parents like that. i wonder, what they would do if you asked to say go to a place like a psychiatric hospital for some help. i've been to four winds. in your case i think getting away from your parents would be helpful, and so inpatient would be better. obviously it costs money, and i don't know if they're the kind of parents that don't like psychiatrists and therapists and don't trust them and think that they and you can solve it on you own. which isn't true. you need help outside of yourself and your parents. often parents really truly don't understand. it seems like yours really don't udnerstand. its a really horrible thing to cut, and it takes a lot to get out of it...theres something about it that kind of calls you...especially when parents are being assholes and you feel like you have no support. i don't know if you're able to really talk with your parents or not, if they'd really listen. they seem the kind that don't know how to deal with something like cutting and go about it in all the wrong ways. i don't know if they think it's just a "phase" or something like that. but clearly they need to understand what you're feeling. if they can at all. sometimes it takes being in that position to understand it. i hope they will try to really help you and not run away from the problem and thinks its something like not trying in school. cuz thats the shelf they seem to be putting it on, what with taking away your friends and other things. i hope you can find a way out, a way to get help. *hugs* and i wish your parents would try to understand.

Having traditional parents never really solves anything, at least for me. I always have to deal mostly with my dad and his stuff about me and whatnot. It at times feels somewhat unfair, because when he was my age we had 2 totally different lives. I'm not certified, but if I was in your case I'd blow everything out of proportion. That may be enough to convince them of getting you professional help. Does anyone else agree with me?